If you’re preparing for maternity leave, then you’re probably trying to decide if you should just work up until your water breaks (like I did… more on that later) or take a week or two before the due date and hope that baby doesn’t take too long in the womb. This post is written for the first week home with baby and the details that might surprise you.
The sleep deprivation, the engorged breasts, the blood, the lingering baby bump… you’ve heard the horror stories. And I want you to know it’s not as bad as they say.
But there is definitely a transition involved. It won’t be over in a week, but that first week home can seem intimidating if you don’t know what to expect.
Expect to be Topless
I’m going to go ahead and shamelessly say that you should definitely try breastfeeding on for size. Whether it works for you or not, it’s a wonderful opportunity for so many awesome benefits. But even if you aren’t totally sold on the idea, plan on being topless.
Why? Because your milk is going to come in anyway. That, and skin-to-skin is amazing. Babies thrive with skin-to-skin snuggles
This might even be a trick to successful breastfeeding. Keep those boobies easily accessible at any point in time, and you’ll be on your way to free food and an instant pacifier. Ya, get excited.
Consider investing in a cheap robe or kimono! They’re the perfect coverup for when you need something easy to throw on or need a good picture. I LIVED in these throughout my pregnancy and maternity leave.
Expect to Offend Someone
That relative that you established boundaries with? She just pulled up at your house…and brought her friend to meet your 3-day old baby. Keep in mind, you’re topless and milk is literally spraying through your shirt.
What do you do?
Shut it DOWN. Send her away. It doesn’t matter if “it will only be a minute”. You aren’t running a petting zoo, and a 10-20 minute warning call is not too much to ask. The baby could be sleeping. YOU could be sleeping. And you need to take care of your needs, because she clearly isn’t going to.
Don’t be afraid to stick up for yourself and your baby during this fragile/healing state. It’s only temporary, and her *feelings* will heal faster than your perineum.
Feel free to take make a copy of that ^^ on me 😉
I suggest a crystal clear notice on the front door. You know, just in case she puts up a fight.
Want to see more custom door signs for the first week home? Etsy is the best place to find them.
Expect to Order Takeout
No matter how many snacks you stashed and freezer meals you prepared, you can expect to order takeout. You can finally eat sushi again! And I’m betting you aren’t getting many offers for the food you want RIGHT NOW.
Even if you did get a mealtrain arranged. Your body has been put through the ringer, and you need fuel around the clock. I think it’s safe to say you deserve a little caloric indulgence. Postpartum fitness isn’t suggested before 6 weeks anyway. So you get a free pass!
Expect to Feel Overwhelmed
There will be moments of everyday that just get the best of you. Don’t beat yourself up. Even if you have help from everyone you know, you can expect to feel overwhelmed during the first week home with baby.
As prepared as you may be, it’s going to happen. But that’s just because you haven’t gotten a full 8 hours of sleep in days, your body is uncharted territory (until further notice), your Aunt Sheila won’t stop calling, and the takeout hasn’t arrived yet.
Under normal circumstances, you’d handle this like a pro. But these aren’t normal circumstances. You aren’t weak. You’re just tired. And it’s all temporary.
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Expect to Wonder When you’ll look like you used to
It is very exciting to watch pounds drop before you leave the hospital (my baby weighed 7lbs, but I only lost 5…??). It’s even more exciting to research all the ways other moms lost their weight. The idea of getting back to normal is intoxicating. But you probably didn’t think you’d be so eager so soon.
I remember being 13 weeks postpartum (hanging on to 40 pounds of baby weight) and asking my mom friend how she had a 2 year old AND a six-pack. “It takes time” were her words of wisdom. And it’s true. It’s not fun to hear, but it’s a nice reminder to worry about other things for a while. In the mean time, consider getting a postpartum girdle for a little confidence boost. This is the one I used, and it was definitely encouraging and reassuring to notice it fit better as time went on lol.
Bottom line: You will look normal again, but not for 6-12 months.
Expect to Be Dominated by a helpless little person
Ya… so I’ve been trying to remind you to take care of yourself this whole time, simply because it is very easy to forget what you went through. You will suddenly become enamored with the sweetest, most innocent, loving little piece of you and it can be a huge surprise.
sure, you expected to love the little thing, but I’m talking about google-everything, terrified of anything going wrong, can’t put the kid down for two minutes because you can’t. stop. Snuggling…!
Going from woman to mama is a massive change, as we all know. But we aren’t all prepared to completely throw our well-being to the wind. It’s scary to think about how much they need you, and that’s exactly what you need to do. Remember how important you are to them, and remind yourself to stay together for them. Babies need their mamas!
There they are. My revelations from the first week postpartum.
I hope you aren’t *too* shocked, but relieved if anything. I want to remind you this rough patch won’t be too rough with the right attitude, and ignorance isn’t always bliss. Getting stuck in your head and losing sight of your needs is easy to do, but we’re all in this together.
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I love your tip! Sound so true… I’ve cooked in advance and have a full freezer waiting for the day, also my friends know I don’t like surprise visitis even without a baby to I hope I’m safe here. I’ve read a book on sleep training https://www.parental-love.com/shop/baby-sleep-training and there are some amazing tips for newborns too and I feel pretty calm right now, although when I read your post… Thanks for the warning though!